Parent Liaison Corner (Halton Hills Minor Hockey)

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Parent Liaison Corner



The primary role of a Parent Liaison is to act as a mediator between players and coaching staff and between parents and coaching staff. The Parent Liaison is to act in the best interest of the players and the team as a whole. Part of their role is to communicate with the coaching staff any concerns or questions brought forth by players and/or parents.

The Parent Liaison is a communication contact to bring collective concerns to the coaching staff and in reverse to collect the opinions of the parents under the directive of the Head coach.

The Liaison will attend coach meetings with players and/or parents to act as a witness and impartial mediator. If at the discretion of the Head Coach and/or Parent Liaison, it is felt that the matter cannot be resolved satisfactory to all parties at the team level, then the Liaison or Head Coach shall contact their applicable Rep or Select Director. The Director will then discuss with the applicable VP of Hockey Operations. The Director will advise the Head Coach of the next steps.

This contact to the Director shall be made when the Head Coach or Parent Liaison have concern that the situation may affect the unity of the team or the welfare of any one person belonging to that team. A meeting will then be set up through the applicable Director with the Discipline Committee as soon as possible.

Once the meeting is set up, it shall be expected that the Head Coach and Parent Liaison will provide the Director separately written details of the actions occurring to date prior to the meeting. The Director will forward the written details on to the Discipline Committee.

The Parent Liaison is a voting member for HHMH and holds a vote at the HHMH Annual General Meeting.

The Parent Liaison must be voted in by the parent group from the team under witness of a HHMH Executive.

The Parent Liaison is responsible with the Team Manager for the team bank account. Both are signing officers of the cheques.


Parent Liaisons provide a communication link between Parents and Coaches during the Hockey Season.  Parent Liaisons are listeners!

They are available to Parents to hear their concerns and bring these forward to Coaches accurately and in a calm, clear manner. By doing this, Parent Liaisons can help resolve conflicts and problems.

Depending upon their interests, abilities, time, and the support they receive from Parents and Coaches, a Parent Liaison may also help out with finding solutions to issues, mediating conflicts, and improving general Team communications.

A Parent Liaison’s most important duty is to be a Good Listener.  What does it mean to be a good listener?  There is a difference between listening and hearing.

Hearing is the physical process the ear goes through to produce sound.  We are listening when we are interpreting, assessing, understanding and responding.  We can certainly hear things when we are not paying attention, but we are never really listening unless we give the speaker our full attention.

Active listening is hard work.  It takes concentration and attention.  Good listening is really “active listening.”

Active Listening Key Points

When you are listening:

  • Resist distractions and give the speaker your full attention.
  • Concentrate; put other thoughts temporarily aside in order to understand what is being said.
  • Listen to all that the other person has to say rather than tuning-out half way to plan a response.
  • Avoid making judgements about what the speaker is telling you.
  • Listen to what that person is really saying.


All parents have the right to ask their Parent Liaison to discuss any problems with the coaches anonymously.

Paraphrasing Technique

Letting people know you’ve heard.  Tell people that you have listened and understood by paraphrasing.  Paraphrasing is not merely repeating. A paraphrase is a summary that includes the speaker’s main points and feelings.

A good paraphrase will:

  • Focus on what was said
  • Reflect only the essentials
  • Include a description of the speaker’s emotions, but NOT the more “descriptive” words that they used. For example, you do not have to use profanity in your paraphrase.

Parent Liaison Tip:

A good paraphrase is important because you can use your paraphrase to tell a coach about a problem.

Paraphrasing in Action

An angry parent approaches a parent liaison after a game: “What is that coach’s !@#$%! problem! He short- shifted my son for the entire third period. I know the team was behind, but that’s no excuse! He told us at the start of the year that shifts would be equal no matter what the score was. That guy is a !@#$%! liar!”

The Parent Liaison’s Paraphrase

“You’re angry because your felt your son was short-shifted in the third period. You suspect it was because the team was behind, but you remember the coach making a commitment to keep the shifts equal regardless of the score. You think he broke his word.”

How the parent liaison might bring this to the coach: “One of the parents raised a concern with me this afternoon. He felt that the shifts were not equal in the third period. He wanted me to bring this to your attention.  Do you have a moment to hear how he saw the situation?”


You are approached by a parent with a concern.

What do you do?

First and uppermost, USE YOUR LISTENING SKILLS.

  • Concentrate on what the parent is saying.
  • Make sure that you are clear about the nature of the problem. Ask questions if you are not.
  • Paraphrase, or summarize, to make sure that the parent agrees that you understand the nature of their concern.

Ask the parent:

  • What is the main point, or points, that you want the coach to understand about this situation?
  • How do you feel this problem could be resolved?
  • What do you want me to do with your concern?

Remember the 24-HOUR COOL DOWN principle

It’s simple…many of the problems we get so excited or angry about do not seem so important when we’ve had time to “cool down” and think matters over.

Parent liaisons may find themselves listening to angry parent’s right after games or practices. In these situations, you may want to suggest the parent take a day to think things over and speak to you again before the issue is brought to the coach.

If the situation cannot be resolved:

Direct the parent to the Conflict/Complaints section on this website to fill out the applicable form.